7 Ways To Strengthen Your Confidence and Courage

Skrevet d. 8-3-2016 21:11:27 af Heidi Vinther

At the end of the day, a lack of confidence and courage is the reason why we aren’t living our life to the fullest.

Confidence and courage is the basic for unleashing your full potential and turning your vision into reality.

Imagine what you would do in your life if you were more confident and courageous?

Confidence and courage is not something you just have or do not have. It’s something you generate. Like a windmill, it doesn’t have power, it generates power – and the stronger the wind the more power generated.

Here is the 7 most powerful ways to generate more confidence and courage and turn your vision for a successful and fulfilling life into reality.

1. Be intentional about being confident and courageous

You strengthen your confidence and courage like you strengthen your muscles and that is by consistent training.

If you stop training your muscles will weaken again and so will your confidence and courage.

First, you have to decide you want to be confident and courageous.

Make it a habit to be intentional about being more confident and courageous in your daily life. I mean it! You have to make it a habit in your life.

Prepare yourself mentally and emotionally for how you want to show up in a more confident and courageous way in any given situation throughout the day.

I invite you to apply the worksheet BE Confident and ACT Courageously to support you in developing the habit of being intentional in being more confident and courageous.

Click to receive the worksheet BE Confident and ACT Courageously in your inbox.

2. Take courageous actions and get out of your comfort zone

If you consistently practice courageous actions that bring you out of your comfort zone you strengthen your confidence and courage.

I know, it can feel very awkward in the beginning, so it’s a good idea to bring your humor with you in the process.

And it can be scary. If it doesn’t scare you then you are not outside your comfort zone. Keep your intended goal in mind and then it feels more exciting than scary to go for it. Soon you will be more comfortable with being outside of your comfort zone.

Imagine what you can do, when you become more comfortable with being outside your comfort zone.

It’s outside your comfort zone that you grow and create a successful and fulfilling life.

You expand your existing comfort zone and open up for so many new possibilities in your life.

If you don’t consistently challenge yourself and expand your comfort zone you can easily end up being mediocre and boring inside your comfort zone.

3. Change your mindset

12xPay attention to what you want and not to what you don’t want.

You get in life what you focus on.

Yes I know, our fears can run away with our attention and keep us inside our comfort zone.

So take responsibility for getting an understanding of what your dominant fears is about, so they don’t run away with your attention.

A very common fear is the fear of failure. Change your perspective on what a failure is. When situations don’t play out as you expected or you go off track with a goal then see it as a learning point.

Ask yourself what it is you have to learn here about yourself. Be open and willing to learn and improve yourself.

Empower yourself and stay focused on what you want.

Click to receive in your inbox the worksheet BE Confident and ACT Courageously to support you in staying focused on being more confident and courageous.

4. Love yourself more

Are you in love with yourself?

You must be in love with yourself if you want the confidence and courage to unleash your full potential and live your life to the fullest.

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Here is a powerful way to become in love with yourself.

Sit down, take a few deep breaths and feel your heart. Then say to yourself either silently or out loud “I love you”. Take it in and feel it in your heart and every cell in your body. That’s the way to rewrite your subconscious mind.

If it feels to awkward for you to say “I love you” to yourself then choose something down the latter e.g. “You are worthy” or something higher on the latter e.g. “You are outstanding”.

It’s important that you start out with something that resonates in you even though it can feel inauthentic in the beginning. Then move up the latter when you are ready to take it in and can feel it in your heart and every cell in your body or else, it can have the opposite effect on your subconscious mind.

It can feel awkward and embarrassing in the beginning to practicing self-love. When you realize how wonderful it is you get totally addicted to it.

Practice self-love consistently and you become the confident source of your own success and fulfillment.

 

 

 

5. Practice honest communication

It takes courage to be authentic, show who you are, stand up for yourself and speak up.

To be authentic means to be true to yourself, to know yourself and to express yourself honestly.

You are authentic when what you think, say and do are in alignment.

When being authentic you give yourself one of the most precious gifts of all - freedom.

When you practice being honest in your communication towards yourself and others about your thoughts, feelings, desires, needs and ambitions you stand up for yourself and show yourself self-respect. You are authentic and strengthen your confidence and courage.

Where aren’t you honest in your communication towards yourself and others?

How could you be more honest in your communication?

6. Use a confident body language

Your nonverbal communication is actually far more influential than your verbal communication.

Your nonverbal communication not only govern how other people think and feel about you, but also govern how you think and feel about yourself.

Practice a confident body language to manage your own emotional state and become more confident and courageous.

A confident body language is an open body language where you e.g. stand up straight with shoulders back, hands on waist and open up your chest or the winner’s run with the arms over the head in a V.

When you have your arms over your head in a V and open your body you can’t stay in an insecure, sad or angry emotional state.

Scientific studies show that only 2 minutes in a confident body posture increases the level of testosterone and decreases the level of cortisol (the stress hormone) significantly so you actually become more courageous and reduces the stress level in your body.

Social psychologist Amy Cuddy explains from a scientific point of view in this TED Talk how our body language has an impact on our confidence.

 

 

 

A few more body language tips for you.

  • Keep your hands up in line with your heart (the passion line) then you are much more engaging and influential.
  • A symmetrical body language creates trustworthiness.

7. Stop excusing, explaining and justifying yourself

Stop the bad habit of excusing, explaining and justifying your choices, decisions and actions.

You do not stand up for yourself, but weaken your confidence and courage when you do it. I invite you to immediately stop this bad habit.

In what situations do you most often begin to excuse, explain or justify your choices, decisions and actions?

How could you answer in a confident way?

Now you know the 7 most powerful ways to strengthen your confidence and courage.

Are you going to apply them in your life?

And no more missing out on great opportunities in your life, because you lack confidence and courage to go for it?

Written by Heidi Vinther - a Danish Success Coach. Her mission is to empower others to dare to step up in career and life and live to the fullest. Heidi has her own online coaching business.